I don't want to get married...is something wrong with that?

My fellow Christian Damsel, welcome back to another post🥰!

In this post I will be exploring a topic that I think is very deep, and will probably stir a lot of discussion🤷🏾‍♀️. I have decided to present it in two parts.

So here we go to Part 1 of the topic, "I'm a Christian Young Woman and I Don't Want to Marry".

I don't want to marry

First of all, let us explore some of the reasons a Christian young woman might give for not wanting to get married. (Many of these were my own excuses too🤫).

Why many young Christian women don't want to marry.

1. Fear of divorce

Whether it was experienced firsthand with your parents, or just something you thought of theoretically, I get this. Nobody with sober thinking enters a marriage with intentions of divorce. It rips families apart and causes emotional pain to adults and children alike. 

2. Fear of spouse dying

This was my biggest reason for not wanting to marry. Back then, I envisioned myself being deeply in love with my future husband. Then I thought of the possibility of tragedies that could cause him to die. How would I deal with losing someone I had so bonded with? Rather than facing that kind of loss, I thought it safer to just not marry in the first place.

3. Fear of issues with in-laws

This is probably something you have seen in your parents, or in the movies. You are probably thinking that it's one thing to love a man, and a totally different ball game to deal with some relatives. The reality is that this issue can really make it hard to say "I do".

4. Wanting independence

Big up my independent ladies who don't need a man to mind you, and who don't want a man to tell you what to do, or turn you into a house mouse, or just cramp your style! Again, this issue may be a big factor for you if you somehow perceive your dad held down your mom from a greater glory you think she could have attained🤷🏽‍♀️. 

5. Unimpressed by the marriages you see around

If what you desire or dream about in marriage doesn't match what you see around, you might get disheartened and decide to forego the whole thing. Why put your heart and life out there for something other married couples show is boring, tasteless and a downright drudgery?!

6. You want no distractions from God

The apostle Paul stated clearly in 1 Corinthians 7:34 that an umarried woman 

"careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit."

He also said that a married woman

"careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband"

Jesus said some people make themselves eunuchs for the kindgom's sake (Matthew 19:13). 

So the Scriptures give room for a woman not to marry for the kingdom's sake.

(Although this excuse sounds admirable, we have to examine our motives. Sometimes bitterness and fear can be the true reasons, but we gladly use these verses as our public coverup.)

7. Fear that God will give you someone unattractive 

You may have heard stories of a woman being told to marry a man who she didn't find attractive. 

When it comes to being open to God's will for marriage, you might fear God will give you a man who is much older than you, or much younger than you, or a Pastor, or who is physivally disabled. You know God may not give you the tall, dark and handsome fellow, so to be on the safe side, you're thinking of staying single to avoid the surprise God might pop on you🙋🏽‍♀️.

Let's Talk!

Are you one of those Christian young women who does not wish to get married? 

Have you thought of the reason(s)? 

Do you see your reason in my list, or would you add more? 

Please share them in the comments below (and you can do so anonymously😉)

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  1. Good read... Very relevant. Although I am not of those people don't want to get married, I often wonder what it would be like if my spouse should die or wants a divorce; those things really weigh me down at times.

    1. Hey👋🏽. Thanks for leaving your comment. I can totally relate. But as realistic as these concerns are, Jesus said His yoke is easy and His burden light. Please take the time to cast these cares on Jesus and I speak your release from every fear and ungodly burden in His name!


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