How to impress a man

Hi there Christian Damsels!

Welcome back to another post.

In this post I share my tips on how to make a good impression on a man!😉

A nationwide stir!

Sara was beautiful. 

Her husband, Abraham, knew it. 

In fact, he knew it enough to fear that he would lose her because of it (Genesis 12:11-13).

11 And it came to pass, when he was come near to enter into Egypt, that he said unto Sarai his wife, Behold now, I know that thou art a fair woman to look upon:

12 Therefore it shall come to pass, when the Egyptians shall see thee, that they shall say, This is his wife: and they will kill me, but they will save thee alive.

13 Say, I pray thee, thou art my sister: that it may be well with me for thy sake; and my soul shall live because of thee.

When the lovely couple had gone into Egypt to escape a famine in Canaan, Sara's physical attractiveness was enough for all the Egyptians to recognize it (Genesis 12:14). 

14 And it came to pass, that, when Abram was come into Egypt, the Egyptians beheld the woman that she was very fair.

Pharaoh's princes were so impressed with her good looks that she became the next item on their political agenda (Genesis 12:15). 

15 The princes also of Pharaoh saw her, and commended her before Pharaoh: and the woman was taken into Pharaoh's house.

Finally, the Pharaoh himself was so moved by this stunning woman that "he entreated Abram well for her sake"! Talk about an impression! 

When was the last time your physical beauty created a nationwide stir? 🤷🏽‍♀️Has your physical beauty ever been the next order of business in your government's parliament? 🤔How much has anyone ever been willing to pay for your face? 🙄

Sara had experienced all these reactions to her physical features.

That's some serious beauty!

Sara's example to us

In 1 Peter 3:3-6, Peter said:

3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;

4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

As remarkable and stunning as Sara was physically, the apostle Peter did not use her bodily endowments as our example.

In fact, he emphasized the complete opposite and took a wholly different direction of emphasis.

Sara is promoted as our example of :

1. a meek and quiet spirit
2. a holy woman
3. trust in God
4. marital subjection

No physical features are promoted.

There's something strange about this...

I have come to find it very interesting that Peter, as a man, admonishes that our true beauty as women does not lie in our outward adornment.

That's an eyebrow-raiser for me. 😲

I have heard it popularly taught that men are visual creatures who are stimulated by what they see.

How could a man write to us as women declaring something that is the total opposite of what we are being told about men today - even in Christian circles?

Now here comes eyebrow-raiser number two. 😲

Not only does Peter shift the focus from our outward adornment, but he shifts it regarding unsaved, unconverted, unregenerate men! He is clear in the first verse as he clearly specifies "if any obey not the word" (1 Peter 1:1), and continues to say those unsaved husbands can "be won". 

Such a husband would need no winning if he were already a child of God! 

Yet here is Peter declaring that an unsaved husband is not won by outward adornment?! 

It is understandable (at least to me), for a saved husband to not focus on external beautification. I can wrap my mind around that. 

But how could it even be remotely possible for your unsaved spouse not to have physical beauty as his priority?

Here is the revelation

Herein lies the stunning, powerful revelation - that which is born of the flesh is flesh and that which is born of the spirit is spirit (John 3:6).

So, though he will be aroused by the sight of your uncovered body for a sexual encounter, only spirit can truly reach spirit! 

If an unsaved husband is going to be thoroughly impressed with a wife and turn to God, she will have to give him something that goes beyond the flesh. 

He needs to be given something more than a pretty face to see - he must get the chance to 'behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear'. Peter says that as unsaved as some husbands are, they will not be moved by our physical titivation if there is no concurrent spiritual ornamentation.

Faith in God is a must

It takes faith in God to not try to keep, please or convert your husband using your body.

When you get dressed at home or to leave the home, is there any fear your husband will slip away from you to another younger, 'more attractive' woman? 

As such, do you add here and take-away there; curl here and straighten there; paint here and colour there with those fears in mind? 

Or, maybe you are confident of your husband's fidelity based on your competitive and youthful decorative edge. 

If somewhere deep down you can affirm these to be true, I have to alert you to some important information: the moment your hubby turns on the television or leaves your presence, he is going to meet or see another woman way more gorgeous than you! 

Of what value, then, will your kanekalon braids, brightly coloured lipstick and fabulous jewellery be? To what avail would you have invested much time, effort and money into obtaining the best outfits and even the spiciest lingerie? 

My sister, make fear, your enemy and faith, your friend. It is time that we trust in God. 

Please do not misunderstand me, however - I am not instructing Christian wives all over the world to do away with makeup and jewellery (the Holy Spirit will have to deal with you individually about that), or to carry ourselves with utter disregard and shabbiness. 🤦🏽‍♀️

The one extreme would be as wrong and inconsiderate to your husband, as the other extreme of putting too much emphasis on the exterior. 

What I am admonishing is that we depend on God and His Spirit in us, to be the glue of faithfulness for our husbands, and the source of their true admiration of us as wives.

The end.

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