How I almost got involved with an UNSAVED man!

Hello there Christian DamselπŸ‘‹πŸΎπŸ˜Š.

I hope you have been doing well!

In this post, I will be sharing a personal testimony and hopefully some lessons you can learn from it!πŸ’πŸ‘πŸΎ

How I almost got involved with an unsaved man

I thought it couldn't have happened!

Before I got married, I used to wonder how Christian girls got into relationships with unsaved young men. 

I thought it was such an obvious thing that could be easily avoided - you know he's not saved, so move on, right? 🀷🏽‍♀️

Well, that is exactly what I thought until I walked into one of the Devil's devices. 

You see, we have an adversary who knows us, and he studies us. I had an invisible enemy who knew I would never just jump into bed with anyone, let alone an unsaved man!

So he came from another angle. 

He used emotion. 

'Get her to become friends with this guy, and before you know it, her defences will be weakened'. 

That was the plan. 

And you would never believe how it started: I approached this young man to witness to him! 

And witness I did...until 'witnessing' turned into 'friendly conversation'!

By the end of the night, we had each other's cell phone numbers and I had a new friend. 

We would meet each other on campus (I was attending university at the time) and we would talk about things of common interest. 

Music was one of them. (I told you that the Devil knows us). 

I was enjoying my new friendship. It was thrilling. No, I wasn't in love! But I was subtly being ensnared to eventually end up truly having feelings for this unsaved young man.

What's wrong with a Christian Damsel dating an unsaved fellow?

Now let's back up this discussion a bit.

Is there something even wrong about a Christian Damsel having an unsaved suitor?

Where does the Bible say that?

I'm glad you asked!πŸ‘πŸΎπŸ₯³

2 Corinthians 6:14 says:

"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"

I had always understood that one key application of this Scripture is in the context of marriage.

Now let's reason together.

If I, as a Christian Damsel should not marry an unsaved man, what's the point of being in courtship with one?πŸ€”

So that's how I know it is biblically wrong for a Christian young woman to date an unsaved young man!πŸ’‘

How the Holy Spirit saved the day

Now back to my suspenseful testimony....

It was the Holy Spirit who stepped in and snatched me from potential self-destruction.

One day, the unsaved fellow in question sent a text message to my phone. 

Nothing strange there. We had become friends and we would regularly text and call each other.

So on that day as I sat at the library computer, I was initially delighted to see his message. 

It was, as usual, innocent. 

But within a moment, something strange and unexpected happened.

I felt the Holy Spirit lift up a standard!

Right in that instant, the Holy Spirit alerted me that I was being pulled in.

The Holy Spirit warned me that if I answered that seemingly innocent text, I would be sucked in. 

God exposed the enemy's plan! 

I paused what I had been doing and somewhat painfully, decided not to answer that text message. 

I never saw him again. 

He never called, or texted ever again.

Just like that, a fellow colleague at the same university in the same parish, in the same country, in the same hemisphere, on the same planet (a bit extreme, I know, but you get the pointπŸ˜†) simply disappeared without a trace! 

That was many years ago, and I still find it an utter mystery. I call it the mystery of Divine preservation. 

Something obviously broke when I obeyed the Holy Spirit in not responding to his text message.

What can you learn from this?

Now that was a long story about me before I was even married. 

What's in this testimony for you? 

Hopefully, it has shown you how the enemy can operate. 

I fail to believe that any true woman of God plans to commit sexual sin. That's incredulous! 

But we live real lives in real situations. We have interests. We have friends. We like to witness. Or, we like to go to the beach. Or we sing on a choir at church. Or we are part of the praise team. Or we have a gardener who comes by every month. 

I could go on and on. There are endless opportunities that our daily activities provide for us to be tempted. 

The question is, what are we doing about those temptations? Are we  recognizing the devices of the Devil before they can ensnare us? 

My fellow Christian Damsels, how serious and desperate are you to stay faithful to God? What sacrifice are you willing to make? Are you willing to look like a fool? 

If you see a flicker of a potential affair, it might not be enough to say 'I won't go to bed with you'. 

On many occasions you may have to decline the very company of those potential ungodly 'lovers'.

Bear in mind too, that in these days of video calls and other fancy technology to keep people in touch, avoiding the opportunity to sin may come down to denying yourself of even phone calls, or, in my example, text messages!


If you're going to be sexually pure, it will take personal sacrifice, spiritual alertness and sensitiveness to the Holy Spirit.

May God give us all the victory in this area of our lives!

Thanks for stopping by Christian Damsel! God bless you.πŸ€—πŸ’

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